Lessons on Family Value

All we have after all is said and done is our bloodline.

Bila dah tua-tua ni barulah I understand why family is number one. Last time I was a quiet little girl. Serious.With family, I am the diam one. At the background. Just there because I am family. I have a huge family. Belah mama. Belah abah. Huge. Both sides provide me with different perspective on family values. 

              Honestly, I am closer to my mother side of the family. Orang cakap, selalunya kita rapat belah mak kan. In mama's side, mama is the eldest sibling, so mama is maklong. Thus I'll have cousins around my age which is why I am more rapat with my cousins on here side. We grew up together. So bila dah besar, we are more or less like adik-beradik. Nana, tasha, yaya, arina, kimi. We understand each other in a sense that kalau bersama we can talk and talk and melawak and merepek like entah apa-apa. 

               Family belah mama ni the common trait is 'lawak loya burok'. Everything is taken lightly and make into a joke and laughing is a must. Pakcik makcik semua macam kawan-kawan, sporting. The thing I love about kuantan is the time kami makan besar. Everyone in the kitchen, then nak makan. Riuh!. Let me tell ya. haha. We can sit together, tua muda and have some decent conversation where everyone is included. Takde kecik-besar, taraf-taraf, pangkat-pangkat, hormat-hormat. Semua boleh mengekspresikan diri dengan lawak masing-masing. 

                I think I take after them. In every serious situation, there is always a chance to make someone smile. It takes the dingin-ness out of the air you know. But you have to be very open and do not take things to heart. Bergurau-senda. Kalau cepat terasa, you do not belong in my family. Memang nangis pun tak dilayan. Kena ejek lagi hebat adalah. Padan muka. 

                  This approach is fun. Because hati di didik untuk tidak bersifat dendam dan hitam dengan kata-kata manusia especially keluarga sendiri. We know that mereka family and sindiran yang terkena tu, harus janganlah diambil bulat-bulat masuk dalam hati. Muhasabah diri lah untuk jadi lebih open minded. Honesty and openness is essential in any relationship. If you cannot take a joke then go and be miserable somewhere else. 

*Plan to write about my family more often. Dah karang post inside brain already but suddenly keluar lain. Weird.