I hate problems regarding hati. Feelings dwelling in our emo system will eat us alive from within. Here are things i i do when it comes to heart. Lets say kita tak puas hati dengan sesuatu;
1) We try to set it aside. Maybe it shouldn't be there. Maybe it is childish. Maybe we should re-think. Bagus step 1 ni. It makes us rationalize our own feelings. Wether right or wrong. We need a clear head. And so we put it aside for a while. See how it all pans out. Kalau the storm pass-by, good. But if it does not...well lets move on to step 2.
2) We ask around. Confide in people we trust. Step 2 is somewhat borderline of dangerous. Yes we need second opinions but the opinions must not be 'berat sebelah' and never must the person we tell all those stuff to be the so called 'batu api'. It will make things worse. Like putting kerosin to fire. No. No. No. We need to tell those who are neutral, not in the same situation, outside the equation. And the most important thing is, that person must try and make things right. Must help out. Must calm us down. Must tell us our part of the wrong. Must
3) Sometimes things heal with time. But don't bullshit me with that crap. Things may subside with time but the problem is still there. And sooner or later things will fall apart without warning. Because we gave 'time' to heal things that is not said. I think better we moved on to step 4.
4) "We need to talk". How people fear this. Frighten of the intervention. Actually, this is how it should be.Tak puas hati cakap. Kalau salah, cakap. I know bukan semua macam saya. I am open-minded enough to do this. I am willing to listen and take it in. But some say nadia couldnt handle this sort of 'perbincangan baik'. Actually korang yang tak boleh sebenarnya. To me, this is the only way to let it all out. Say what's need to be said. Know the problem. Think of resolution. Sorry is the best way to start over again.
*I'm not asking you to try. But this is the best way; i think.
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